"The Courage to go First"

One key to happy relationship is courage — the courage to go FIRST. We need the courage to do the right thing ourselves — and not demand that our partners go first.

It’s so sad when a couple is locked into a "you-go-first" power struggle. Both know things are bad, both know things need to change, but, tragically, each can only see what the other needs to do differently. Each can only see the others faults. This "blame-versus-blame" power struggle is very hurtful and very frustrating.

One solution is to find the courage, YOURSELF, to take the first step.

What can I do differently to keep us out of our struggle?

What can I do differently to pull us out of our struggle when we start?

What can I do differently to help us recover from our struggles?

Have the courage to take action first. Yourself. Don’t wait for them. Don’t blame them. Don’t try to get them to do the right thing. Do the right thing yourself. FIRST.

You’ll be glad you did.